How do I choose a divorce mediator?

California has a high number of skilled and experienced divorce mediators. If you want to pursue divorce mediation but aren’t sure how to pick a mediator, you can use the following as a basic guide.

The first step is to create a short list of divorce mediators. You can find divorce mediators through personal referrals, online searches, legal directories such as Avvo or Nolo, and even in the Yellow Pages.

Next, set up a short call or meeting (in-person or online) with each mediator. Prepare a basic list of questions that can be used during the conversation:

  • What is your training and experience?
  • How do you work with couples who are just getting started in this process?
  • What logistical options do you offer?
  • How much do your services cost?
  • How can I know that you will be neutral and unbiased during the process?
  • Can you provide any references?

From there, add questions relating to specific issues, such as child custody or real estate concerns.

Finally, ask your spouse to meet or call each mediator. When both spouses are given a say in selecting the mediator, chances that the mediation will end successfully increase.

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