Divorce: The Decision To Stay Or Not To Stay

By Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

divorce mediation lawyers Orange County; California Divorce MediatorsReaching the point of considering divorce is generally something that takes a long time for someone to come to.  It comes down to the main question of whether you should stay in the marriage or leave.  Here is some related questions you need to ask yourself before opting for or against a divorce.

Question 1: Is It Better For Your Child To Stay In A Dysfunctional Strained Home Or In A Broken Home?

Once you have kids the ball game of a relationship changes. To both the parents the most important person in the relationship is then the child. So when you are deciding on whether or not to go for Orange County divorce mediation you should ask yourself what situation of the two mentioned above suits the child. Will they be better of living in a broken home with their parents divorced and separated or in a home where despite their parents being married there are fights, strains and arguments a plenty.

Question 2: Is There Someone Else In The Relationship?

This is one of the first things to ask. People who are dissatisfied from their marriage can sometimes venture into relationships outside of their marriage which could either be a flirtation, a romance, etc. The decisions you will take if you have already found someone special will be different to what you would if you were alone and only had the marriage partner you are dealing with to go back to.

Question 3: Do You Want A Better Marriage Or A Divorce?

It is important you realize that there is a difference between a better marriage and a divorce. Both of them are not similar in any way. A divorce is ending the relation and a better marriage is improving the marriage that you have. If you have an unhappy marriage, you can change that and work to make it better.  On the other hand, if you have an unsalvageable marriage, that is a prime example of a marriage that will lead to divorce.

Question 4: Have We Given It Our All?

Would you quit your job when you haven’t given your 100%? That would mean you are quitting wouldn’t it? That is the problem here. Once you have gotten an Orange County divorce there is very little you can do even if you regret it. The best way to avoid doing that is to give your all to salvaging your marriage. If, even if it doesn’t breathe a new life, you can then at the very least be content at having given the relation your all.

Whatever decision you take will largely depend on the amount of effort that you have put in. If you do end up deciding to divorce, it’s best that you choose a method that empowers you to solve your divorce yourself with your spouse. This can be best achieved through divorce mediation.

To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help, please visit our page, “What is Divorce Mediation.”