Common Divorce Problems Created By The Spouses

By Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Divorce mediation attorney Orange County; California Divorce MediatorsWhen a couple decides to divorce, there are many emotions that each spouse can often feel which includes anger, hate, disappointment and self pity. While these emotions are acceptable since divorce can be hard to grapple with, it is important to make sure that the process is not complicated by problems created by the parties themselves.

In our experience as California divorce mediators, unfortunately we have come across a number of spouses creating problems in their mediation process and ultimately in then resolution of their cases.  Here is a list of some of these common problems that couples create.

Financial Inaccuracy

Whether you like it or you don’t, the role of finances is one of the most important ones in divorce. For things in the marriage to go as smoothly as possible both of then spouses need to ensure accuracy of data provided and be truthful in their assertions. Orange County divorce mediation is not litigation; there is no judge that you want to fool around with.  You need to work with them to produce an effective solution and lying about your financial assets may decrease the effectiveness of the process.

Bringing the Past in the Present

The problems that you have had to face in your relation are ones that only you can understand. No mediator can gauge the trouble and torment that you went through. Yet, what you need to understand is that focusing on then past and bringing it up in mediation discussion will only create further problems for the future. The other spouse may start to get cranky or uneasy, ruining the amicable atmosphere needed for a divorce to conclude within a reasonable time.  work.

Not Compromising and Being Rigid

The term mediation means compromising and reaching a solution between one another. Compromising and accepting the view point of the other party is an important step in mediation. Two spouses will often have two solutions in mind; neither of them can enforce their own on the other. For a mediation to be effective both of them need to accept some of the demands of the other to reach a mutually acceptable decision.

Thinking About Everything but the Kids

Being a parent means that the single most important thing for parents is their kids. They want to make sure that their kids are kept safe and have a healthy future up ahead. In such situations, the biggest problem you can create is forgetting about the interests of your kids and their future while you go through Orange County divorce mediation with the other spouse.

To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help, please visit our page, “What is Divorce Mediation.”