Rebuilding Trust If You Were Cheated On

By Gerald A. Maggio, Esq.

Divorce mediation attorney Orange County; California Divorce MediatorsA large number of couples have looked towards ending their marriage, and get a divorce to begin a new life filled with new experiences. Divorce is one of the hardest emotional experiences for a couple to go through, because it marks the end of a relation that was meant to have lasted forever. This emotional trauma of a divorce is likely to increase more if the reason for the divorce is infidelity. Infidelity is a concept that is looked down upon in most societies. It involves a spouse cheating on his/her spouse by having relations behind their back with someone else.

When a spouse finds out about such activities of the other spouse, the first thing that hits the spouse are the feelings of betrayal, hurt, devastation, and shock. In such cases, where one of the spouses has broken the trust of the other spouse to pieces, it is important that you clear the air with your spouse all the while still getting divorced from him/her.

If reconciliation is not an option for you, the best way for a spouse to end the relationship after infidelity is to participate in Orange County divorce mediation. Divorce mediation is one of the fastest-growing divorce methods. The increase in the number of people looking to solve their issues and absolve their marriage using this process is due to the cooperative and communicative approach used in this method.

It is true that having been cheated on is one of the worst feelings in the world, and the magnitude of the hurt and the anguish cannot be measured by anyone but the person that feels it. That being said, for you to be able to heal yourself of this blow, and to be able to get out of this trauma, you need to have communication with your spouse. Especially if your marriage involved kids, the level of cooperation needs to stay up at all times between you and your spouse and the best way to ensure that is by ensuring that the communication continues and your issues of hurt are resolved.

Tips To Get Over Being Cheated On

  • Try and get as much rest as possible in this time, don’t try to over work yourself to run from the feeling, since it is likely to continue to stay with you for a long time.
  • Make sure alcohol, etc. are avoided.  You need to have as clear a mind as possible.
  • Think about your feelings and write them down. Writing down your feelings will allow you to express them better to your spouse during your divorce mediation sessions.
  • Take some individual time with the mediator (if your spouse is okay with that) or with an independent attorney to try and make sure you are clear on all aspects and are able to seek their advice with respect to your situation.

To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help, please visit our page, “What is Divorce Mediation.”